The Law of Attraction and How It Changed a Woman's Life

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Carolyne Bennett was a single mother, knee deep in debt and with no career in sight. Today she is a successful trainer and speaker and shares how she changed her life

Long before I discovered the law of attraction, there was a word I would use to describe my relationships, both romantic and friendships - appalling. When I thought about my teens and twenties, I always felt uncomfortable, disconnected, and sensitive. Since I suffered massively from social anxiety, I was constantly worried about what others thought of me. I lacked confidence and I never showed myself to be myself but who I thought was more acceptable to others. I was wearing a very uncomfortable mask that didn't fit me well at all.

I had had an emotionally abusive relationship with my father in my childhood and as a teenager - he was jealous and possessive of my mother and alcohol was a major factor in our household. When I grew up, I unfortunately mirrored and modeled what I had seen and learned. I partied hard and was heavily addicted to alcohol and drugs. I was confident with friends and was afraid of getting hurt. I thought I was a bad person after being verbally abused as a child. That was my programming.

In 2006 my life was upside down, back to front and honestly upside down. I was a single mother, had ended an unhealthy relationship in 2003, was knee deep in debt, and had no fixed career path. My inner voice screamed, “There must be something else!” I knew that I couldn't go on with this destructive pattern.

Then came the lightning moment. I discovered the law of attraction in 2006 after reading a magazine review on The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. The idea that “what humans can perceive. one can reach “touched me deeply and I saw it as a way out of my past turbulence. In the end. From then on, I became the creator of my reality. All I had to do was think about what I wanted instead of working on what I was missing.

After years of studying, manifesting and teaching the Law of Attraction as a trained coach, I now live a happy, fulfilling life with healthy, honest and stable relationships and deep and meaningful connections. Read on for my expert tips on how to implement the law of attraction to attract the relationships you want and deserve:

1. Focus on what you want, not what you don't want

As humans, we tend to focus on the negatives. If you've ever tried online dating, remember how you may have been quick to say what you disliked about someone's profile or photo, often unknowingly turning the whole process into negative practice. Be clear about what to expect from relationships, but KNOW that you will have to put the work into it to get the results you want. Remember: "Where the focus is, energy flows". To get the most out of connections and ensure healthy longevity, ask yourself, “How do I appear? How can I act differently if I want to let go of my previous experiences so that I can experience more of what I want? "

Know that if you do what you've always done, you will get what you always got. Make a pact with yourself to let go of negative relationship patterns in order to attract more of what you want. Believe you deserve fulfilling relationships.

Carolyne Bennett (Photo: Beth Crockatt)

What to do next: Take some time to write down values ​​that are important to you. For me it was openness, communication, honesty and security. I let go of the limiting beliefs I had developed as a child and instead focused on what I wanted in my future life. Now use this as a blueprint for your future happiness - use your energy to guide these values ​​into your life through your relationships. Are you wondering if a relationship that may have stalled fits these values? If not, maybe it is time to move on. Align your thoughts so that they align with your desired goal.

2. Choose love

Once you are clear about your values, proactively CHOOSE what you want for yourself when you are in a happy relationship and CHOOSE to believe that you deserve it. Paint a clear picture of happy, fulfilling relationships in your head - what does it mean to you - what does it look like? How would you like to feel in a new relationship? At this point you may become aware of past blockages - they are preventing you from moving forward, which is where some healing work can come into play. Do a daily meditation practice where you picture these blocks in a large helium balloon that floats away. Know that they no longer serve you. Acknowledge them and let them go.

What to do next: Make a pact with yourself to make NEW decisions. Ask yourself, “How can I choose differently to avoid past mistakes and attract the kinds of relationships I want?” Write a journal about how you would like to feel in a new relationship. What do you want in your life to be fulfilled? Remember, you are in the driver's seat, you make the decisions. Decorate your desk or mirror with post-it notes with the words "I CHOOSE ..." followed by your wishes. Surround yourself with your own decisions - make them your daily mantra to manifest. As we change and evolve with our new choices, we will naturally attract new people into our lives.

3. Be your own BFF

The most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves, and yet we often speak to ourselves in hurtful, negative ways. A big step for me was learning to be kind to myself and this was fundamental to my own journey and my spiritual awakening. How could I draw a loving relationship into my own life if I didn't love myself? The amount of love we give ourselves is the amount of love we attract from others. How can you choose to love yourself a little more?

What to do next: Make a proactive decision to become your own best friend. Become the friend you want to attract. Calm the inner critic by setting healthy boundaries and listening to and meeting your own needs. Reshape your inner dialogue so instead of saying, "Oh here I am, another lonely night on the sofa," think about how you can enjoy time with yourself and do things that make you happy and happy feel fulfilled. This inner peace will help you become magnetic - attract the relationships that are justified in your world.

* Find out more about Carolyne Bennett at carolynebennett.com

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