How to Use the Law of Attraction to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Be Happy Again | Author, Coach Christy Whitman
The first step in getting rid of negativity is to acknowledge this universal truth: the people, experiences and circumstances that you draw into your life are always in the energetic realm of your location.
This is based on the universal law of attraction, which says, "What is like itself is drawn" or "What you expect you get".
The quality of the experiences you draw in reflects the way you really feel inside.
This is great news when you attract the things you love, right? But it's not that fun to hear if what you're attracting is negative energy.
How can you get rid of negative energy so that it no longer prevents you from wanting you in love and in life and you can be happy again?
Here's the thing: the law of attraction never goes wrong. It brings us experiences that are incompatible with the energy we are sending out.
True empowerment comes when we realize that we are always responsible for our own energies.
In any situation and in any relationship, you have the power to get rid of negative energy so that you can live your best life.
Here's how to make this vital change and get rid of negative energy in 4 easy steps:
Step 1. Start paying attention to what you say "no" to.
It is important to realize that what you are saying is not just saying "no". Whenever you oppose a particular person, situation, or circumstance, say "no" forcefully. And in this vibrational universe the energy of no is just as powerful as the energy of yes.
The law of attraction responds to what, where, and how your attention is directed.
If your focus is on "those people who are so negative" then you know what? You are using your strong focus to attract more negativity. As the old saying goes, people who complain still complain!
Yes, this is a jagged pill to swallow, but you cannot discover your true power without accepting it.
The first step in getting rid of negative energy is to take a personal inventory of your own focus.
Here is a simple exercise to help you do this:
Pick an area of your life that isn't developing as smoothly as you'd like. It could be the area of your intimate relationships. Or your work. Or your living environment. Or your relationship with your children.
Now, allow yourself to roughly see what percent of your attention is devoting to what is wrong and what is right. Do you vibrate more in harmony with dissatisfaction and judgment or with acceptance and appreciation?
If you are not sure, you can always find out reliably. When you think about this area of your life, how do you feel? Does the thought of it evoke lofty emotions such as zeal, gratitude, or hope? Or do your emotions revolve around the drain in the area of injury, disappointment, resignation or fear?
Your emotions are your most reliable and strongest compass. They tell you where you are and where you are going every moment.
Positive emotions mean that you are leaning in the direction of your desire. Negative emotions indicate that you are contradicting the very results that you want to unfold.
In other words, your energy will be split. Part of you is pulling in the direction of what you want and another part of you is noticing what you have.
Split energy is highly uncomfortable, totally counterproductive, and unfortunately a very common human experience. To see what you can do about it, skip to step 2!
Step 2. Use the contrast of what you don't want to get clarity about what you are doing.
An easy way to do this is to make a list of the three most common ailments in any area of your life that feels more negative than positive.
For example:
- "I feel unimportant to my husband."
- "I feel taken for granted."
- "I feel misunderstood."
Instead, when thinking about each complaint, think about how you want to feel.
For example:
- "I want to feel important."
- "I want to feel valued."
- "I want to feel understood."
Pretty easy right?
Every experience has two sides. At one end of the equation is what we want and at the other end what we don't want. Negative emotions only arise when we are focused in a way that blocks the experience we want.
Shifting your focus from unintentional to intentional goes a long way in bridging that void, but the next step provides a quantum leap in mastering your energy.
Step 3. Make up your own mind that you are 100% responsible for your feelings.
No matter how it may seem, each of us is 100% responsible for how we feel.
Here's an easy way to prove it to yourself:
If someone you love told you you had green hair, would you be upset? Probably not.
But what if the same person tells you that you are selfish, or lazy, or that you are too competitive? That would be a different story, wouldn't it?
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One statement elicits no response, while another statement provokes feelings of anger or defensiveness because the words offered have nothing to do with how you are feeling. You have the feeling - of neutrality, anger or defense - created entirely within yourself.
How did you do that exactly? By assigning a specific meaning to the words offered.
It's never the comment, circumstance, or behavior that upsets us (although it certainly looks or feels like it at first glance). It is the meaning we assign to what is happening to us that makes us feel good or bad, and we alone assign these meanings in the privacy of our own hearts and minds.
So the final step in getting rid of negative energy is to choose interpretations that will empower you rather than disempower you by creating meanings that make you feel good, not bad. And that leads us to our fourth and final step.
Step 4. Decide in advance how you want to feel.
Those who lead mediocre lives expect others to influence their feelings.
For example, they are looking for a sense of meaning in their significant other or looking for a sense of worth or security after their career. But if this is our approach, we are literally giving away our most precious resource: our ability to focus and feel in a targeted manner.
Getting rid of negative energy is really just a matter of consciously focusing on what you think is positive.
They have limited bandwidth or attention span. You can't focus on things that make you feel good and things that make you feel bad at the same time.
So the secret to getting rid of negative energy is to fill yourself with as much positivity as possible. It is really that easy.
Don't wait until you step into the social situation and then notice how you feel about it. Decide in advance how you are going to feel.
Don't make your sense of desirability or importance dependent on receiving your partner's undivided attention.
Do not marry your inner sense of worthiness or security with your career or your bank account.
In other words: don't assign your happiness to anyone other than yourself!
Make it clear who you are and how you want to feel. And nurture those feelings within yourself every day as part of your self-care.
Take responsibility for setting the energetic tone of any interaction you participate in. If you do this consistently, only those who match your positive energy will come into your experience.
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Christy Whitman is an energy healer, celebrity coach, and New York Times best-selling author of The Art of Have It All: A Woman's Guide to Unlimited Abundance. When you are ready to discover the limitlessness of your own wisdom and power, join their conscious community and begin manifesting greater abundance in your life with seven days of free meditations. Connect with her on her website to find out more.
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